Eva
My lesson at 4:30 pm yesterday was one of the most confusing and discouraging experiences I've had while learning to drive.
What makes this especially difficult to understand is that my first lesson with the same instructor was completely different. During that lesson, he was patient, respectful, and encouraging. He told me I was a good driver and that I only needed one more lesson before sitting my full licence test. Naturally, I left feeling confident and decided to book another lesson with him the day before my test.
The instructor I had yesterday felt like a completely different person.
Throughout the lesson, he repeatedly raised his voice, became visibly frustrated, huffed and sighed, and spoke to me in a way that made me feel like I couldn't do anything right. Instead of calmly explaining what I needed to improve, he reacted with frustration whenever I made a mistake or didn't identify a hazard the way he wanted. By the end of the lesson, he told me that, in his opinion, I was not ready for my test the next day, that I was the equivalent of a learner driver, and that I wasn't going to pass.
The sudden change in feedback was incredibly confusing. Just a short time earlier, I had been told I was driving well and only needed one more lesson. Then, without any clear explanation for such a dramatic change, I was made to feel as though I had no business sitting my test at all. I genuinely left questioning my own ability and feeling like all the progress I had made had disappeared overnight.
I want to be clear that I have no problem being told I need to improve, that I have areas to work on, or even that I'm not ready to sit my test. That's what I was paying for. I value honest feedback, and I know that learning to drive involves making mistakes and correcting them. What I do expect, however, is to be spoken to politely and treated with basic respect. Honest feedback is part of learning to drive. However, there is a significant difference between constructive in